Children as learners need adults who love them, even when the children are unable to give anything in return. Furthermore, adults should be able to make wise judgements concerning what is good for the children. The clarification of these principles and of their educational import has to start within our own cultural tradition. "Agape" (unconditional love, neighbour-love or charity) is a basic concept in the Christian tradition. "Phronesis" (moral wisdom, practical judgement or prudence) has a key position in the Aristotelian tradition. In his "Summa Theologiae" Thomas Aquinas has combined these traditions and ethical concepts, with "agape" (in Latin "caritas") as the commanding concept. The article will explore some key challenges and productive resources revealed by this combination for today's education and upbringing.