The two most powerful forces for directing change in troubling young people are trust and relationship. The degree to which they are present between youth and adult is the degree to which positive change is possible. This article draws upon principles from the book, "The Resilience Revolution." Children are most primed to turn to trusted attachment figures in times of trouble. In fact, the very presence of trusted adults or peers greatly reduces the impact of stress (Lynch, 1977). And those who have experienced trauma or unresolved conflict are hungry to find a supportive listener. They want to tell their story and will likely open up if trust can be established. The recently released report compiled by the Commission on Children at Risk (2003), "Hardwired to Connect: The New Scientific Case for Authoritative Communities," cites recent brain research, which concludes that humans are hardwired for close attachments to others. People crave it and will do almost anything to receive it. Perhaps the very absence of such connections with children who are in crisis ought be a sign that we are doing something wrong, not that the child is defective or deficient. This article presents a list of practical strategies for building connections to adult-wary kids.