This autoethnographic paper is part of a special issue trying to answer the question "How to design or choose languages for programming novices?" I will describe how my programming language Hedy was created, how the initial design goals were formed, how my perspectives on learning and teaching changed along the way, and how Hedy changed with it. The paper also discusses how the Hedy community came to be. Hedy was initially made for my own classroom and teaching, but quickly attracted a community, which I learned a lot from. This special issue has given me a unique opportunity, after 5 years of working on Hedy, to reflect on the process and to learn from it myself, and will hopefully also allow other programming language designers to learn from.