Despite the increasing social tolerance accorded nonheterosexual persons in many Western countries, queer youth suicide rates remain high. This opens the need to question not only how broad social conditions continue to make lives unlivable for many queer youth but whether queer community formations and representations that emerge within a tolerance framework provide supportive environments for fostering youth resilience. This article presents a theoretical approach to understanding the continuity of youth suicide by considering how queer community formations built on tolerance create new exclusions for some queer youth that can make a life unlivable in relation to peers. The article articulates the tolerance framework through a return to Dennis Altman's 40-year-old "Homosexual Oppression and Liberation" and the more recent "homonormativity" critique of queer politics. It examines how tolerance and homonormativity are implicated in exclusions and suicidality through the "relative misery" suicide thesis and the concept of frustrated aspiration.