Afterschool programs supplement students' academic preparation, provide adult supervision when parents are working, and provide an opportunity for adult social and emotional growth. This paper examines how adult educators in these programs can mobilize their inner resources and social-emotional aptitude to achieve good relationships with their co-workers and with the children in their care. Findings of the Bringing Yourself to Work Project, a professional development program for afterschool educators at Wellesley College, provides an empirical foundation for the relevance of emotional intelligence and relational psychology at work. The paper discusses issues of self-awareness, cultural boundaries, and the potential for adults to learn relational skills. (Contains 66 references.) (Author/KB)