Socialization, once known as "fraternization," among superintendents and principals is a standard practice in educational administration. Socializing with colleagues is one way superintendents and principals, as leaders, enhance the teaching and learning environment for which they are responsible. The opportunity to share with and learn from other administrators is important for professional development. Yet, this paper asserts, social groups and social activities among administrators are generally split along gender lines, and women administrators often feel excluded. The paper cites several specific examples of "after-work" activities proposed by administrators that, by their very nature, seemingly exclude either women or men administrators. This implied exclusion of either gender is more than an issue of equity, the paper contends. For the future success of schools, women and men administrators must find ways to share with and learn from each other. (WFA)