This two-part pamphlet assists parents and teachers in setting appropriate limits on children's behavior. Part 1 begins by illustrating the differences between punishment and discipline. It points to four basic reasons for misbehavior: (1) attention; (2) power; (3) revenge; or (4) inadequacy. Each of these reasons are fully defined, and advice for dealing with the behavior is presented. Developmental milestones in the first two years, the preschool years, and middle childhood are discussed in an effort to characterize meaningful and appropriate expectations of children's behavior. Part 1 ends with a listing of key points addressed in the articles, and activities to assist in setting appropriate limits. The second pamphlet begins with a discussion of the three basic parenting styles: the yielder, the enforcer, and the negotiator. Strategies are presented to help parents and teachers reduce discipline problems, including: (1) proper environment; (2) limits; (3) empathy; (4) share the control; (5) share the reasoning; (6) use choice; (7) maintain self-control; and (8) be consistent. Guidance in dealing with undesirable behavior, including teaching natural consequences, logical consequences, time-out, and redirection, is presented. The guide ends with activities which reinforce key points addressed in the articles. (SD)