This speech focuses on the ways in which many individuals try to teach others about emotional health and well-being without having accomplished the same for themselves. The speaker posits that some are better talkers than doers because to really find a sense of health and stability, one must forget about oneself; one must become "absent" of self rather than focused on self. Further, a sense of well-being and fulfillment will never be found with the intellect by dwelling on what this personal sense of self thinks it wants, needs, or deserves. There are eight characteristics or attitudes of an emotionally healthy adult: sees what needs to be done and does it; (2) lives life in silent integrity; (3) serves others; (4) is creative and a good problem solver; (5) accepts changes and disruptions; (6) is not influenced by peer pressure; (7) is kind, gracious, courteous, giving and compassionate; and (8) has a sense of humor. Teaching young children and working with their parents is the perfect employment for anyone seeking emotional health because many daily demands are made to forget oneself, so ideas, certainty, and goodness can flow. These demands are what force the practice of this absence of self so fulfillment can follow. Educator attitudes towards the parents of the children they teach create the environment in which parents can learn about children, parenting, and emotional health. The speaker exemplifies this philosophy through discussions of parenting and child behavior. (JBJ)