This booklet is designed to assist those who are responsible for coordinating and monitoring from a distance the care of an aging relative. It provides help in identifying problem areas and possible resources for support. It also provides information about creating a network of assistance that includes family, friends, neighbors, and social service workers, and contains suggestions for planning to make visits most effective. Suggestions are provided on making the most of limited visits, focusing on talking with the relative and observing how the person is living. A care management worksheet is provided which includes 16 statements about the elderly person's needs and well-being with suggestions for services needed, relevant readings, and available resources. Four additional statements deal with the perceptions of the caregiving relative, focusing on his or her stresses. A bibliography listing the resources suggested in the care management worksheet plus a list of free American Association of Retired Persons (AARP) resources are included; and seven books for sale to AARP members at discount prices are also listed. Suggestions on how to identify the older relative's informal support system and how to expand the existing support network are made. Methods for locating and using formal services are discussed and state units on aging are listed. It is suggested that the caregiver may wish to locate a Silver Pages Directory or consider a private geriatric case manager. Suggestions are also made on accepting formal services and dealing with the social service network. The booklet concludes with recommendations for the caregiver's own well-being. (ABL)