North American men die about 10 years younger than their female counterparts. This difference is not based on biological differences but on behavioral differences. Men are taught not to take care of themselves and to deaden themselves emotionally. Men are incurable romantics. They are addicted to the hero myth which is a wonderful inspiring, uplifting fantasy. Heroes can't die if they are pure of heart, are tough, ignore limits, and struggle without recognition for a long time until they find the holy grail. One part of the hero myth that deserves particular attention is the idea that heroes are supposed to be tough, ignore fatigue, grit their teeth against the pain, steel themselves against cowardice, and rise above despair and doubt. Real men are supposed to suppress negative emotions through sheer force of will. This suppression of feelings leads to loss of inner wisdom, connectedness, and self-protection warnings; use of alcohol, nicotine, and over-eating; and suppression of positive feelings. Men can consciously break free by following these 10 steps: (1) not following the crowd; (2) letting go of being a hero; (3) getting physical exercise; (4) working less; (5) living more with less; (6) seeking balance; (7) creating safe spaces; (8) tracking blocking of feelings; (9) nurturing others and themselves; and (10) valuing resilience over toughness. (ABL)